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Habits are important in a Charlotte Mason relational education. They are mentioned as the second item of Ms. Mason’s educational trifecta, “education is an atmosphere, a discipline, and a life” and emphasized under principal #7 which states, “By Education is a discipline, is meant the discipline of habits formed definitely and thoughtfully, whether habits of mind or body.” The recent discussions on this topic online and in meetings show just how concerned parents and teachers are about habits. I have noticed the swinging of the pendulum to one side – that of external application.
While Mason does mention choosing a bad habit to work on, I don’t see her picking a character trait or habit and turning it into a unit study by defining it, reading books to point the moral, and talking about it ad nauseum. I know this doesn’t work because that is exactly where I started 20 years ago. Yes, we wrote “Attentiveness” on the board, defined it, looked up verses on it, and read stories that highlighted it. What this did was to create a polite apathy and aversion in my sons towards any mention of the term. Since I was reading Mason at the same time, I was a bit confused and could see how my approach conflicted with Mason’s ideas on habits and how to cultivate them. I changed my approach.
“A person is not built up from without but within, that is, he is living, and all external educational appliances and activities which are intended to mould his character are decorative and not vital.”(Mason, Vol. 6, p. 23)
In the following example, Mason tells of a lazy young man who changes his ways:
The lazy boy who hears of the Great Duke’s narrow camp bed, preferred by him because when he wanted to turn over it was time to get up, receives the idea of prompt rising. But his nurse or his mother knows how often and how ingeniously the tale must be brought to his mind before the habit of prompt rising is formed; she knows too how the idea of self-conquest must be made at home in the boy’s mind until it become a chivalric impulse which he cannot resist. (Mason, Vol. 6, p. 102)
What are the elements here? A great story, a subtle reminder, self-discipline and an irresistible chivalric impulse! But note what she says next –
“It is possible to sow a great idea lightly and casually and perhaps this sort of sowing should be rare and casual because if a child detect a definite purpose in his mentor he is apt to stiffen himself against it.”
Here she says that even this way of encouraging lightly and casually should be rare. It’s a fine art, this role of helping the child build up from within.
A unique aspect of Mason’s philosophy is that the habits of the mind are not developed in isolation from the method, content, or philosophy. Habits are part of the whole, the life, the education at hand. I find it interesting that when I have a problem or something isn’t working in my homeschool, I don’t need to run out and buy a different curriculum to fix it. If I turn to her philosophy and try to understand more, I almost always find the solution.
Here is an example that illustrates what I mean. It seems that a headmaster in a poor district in England had adopted Mason’s P.U.S. curriculum and wrote her a letter in appreciation. He states that previously, corporal punishment (physical punishment involving pain) had been the norm in his school where bad habits abounded.
But now narration compels the teacher to get at the back of a child’s mind. ?This combined with mutual discussion on a wide range of subjects, begets understanding. ?Understanding begets confidence and love, and all need of corporal punishment and restraint gradually disappears. ?A teacher who had previously taught in the school called the other day. ?She exclaimed immediately: “How happy everyone is!” “Do you mean the children?” I said. “Yes,”she answered, “and the teachers.” That is not intended as a compliment to the work but it was in reality one of the best I have received; for children are only happy when making headway. (Cholmondley, The Story of Charlotte Mason, p. 138)
I love the idea that narration compels the teacher to get at the back of a child’s mind! That example highlights the fact that the methods (narration), content (wide range of subjects), and philosophy (relationships, understanding) all work together to provide a healthy, positive atmosphere that may reduce stress and bad habits.Now, I don’t think that every child will follow the same patterns that she glowingly tells us about in her examples. I’m also not saying that Mason is the final authority on the subject, because she isn’t. But I do think that she is getting at something different than what I see being talked about when it comes to habits. And maybe that’s because she already assumes that the authority issue has been settled. She calls proper authority one of the three “foundation principles”, the “basis for moral training”, “fundamental”, and “present but not in evidence: we do not expose the foundations of our house”. Just a quick glance around our culture, church included, we can see that this isn’t in place. It isn’t in place for the adults (under God’s authority) and it isn’t in place for the children. But I suppose that is another discussion altogether. So when it comes to habits, Mason speaks of the child’s heart – their inner self. Ideas are the impetus for good habits and should thoughtfully mobilize the student to self-discipline. The parent or teacher should be working alongside the child and the Holy Spirit.
One more thing. Dr. Carroll Smith shares this note that he came across in the Armitt Museum archives on Charlotte Mason. It was written to Henrietta Franklin in 1922, the year before she died. She writes, “Science has done nothing to confirm the “rut” theory in all these years, and Brother Body seems to me much the inferior partner. I think all that I have written is still true but I would emphasize habit and so on less. Child mind – no, because a child has as much mind as the rest of us”
Thus, don’t begin with teaching the habit of (insert habit here) – begin with the relationships, appropriate books, ideas, outdoor life, and all those things that fill the child’s mind with ideas that make up this living education. Watch that pendulum, please.
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